I had a very girly weekend last weekend. On Friday night a few friends went to uber cool Sake restaurant in The Rocks and ate ourselves stupid. In fact, as a tip, we handed the menu over to the waiter, said ‘you decide’ and then we ate, and ate, and ate. Between cocktails to start with, entree’s, mains, desserts AND three bottles of wine and a few diet cokes and coffee to finish, we were all expected the bill to seriously hurt our wallets but for 5 of us, the total bill came to $120 each and that included a tip – well worth while (if you ever go, you must try the sushi taco’s – DELISH!) Anyhow, I digress.
During dinner there was a discussion around some of our friends needing a little life guidance on ‘what’s next’, This is fair enough, we all go through that time in life where we ask, where will I be in ten years time? My amazingly organised little sister must have known this was going to come up because she pulled out 5 pieces of paper and asked us all to read the backside of it first, it had affirmations about the important things in life. She highlighted the things specific points she wanted me to think about (no one else got a copy covered with highlighted points so I guess she figured I was most in need of some self-help). Little sister’s points included:
1. That which matters the most should never give way to that which matters the least.
2. Listen, Listen, Listen and then ask strategic questions
3. Dance, Sing, Floss and travel
4 . Creativity is maximised when you’re living in the moment
5. Children are the orgasm of life. Just like you did not know what an orgasm was before you had one, nature does not let you know how great children are until you have them.
6. Friends are more important than money
7. Stress is related to 99% of all illness.
Aside from this being a relatively confronting thing to read and my slightly defensive “I’m not like that” initial reaction, the words in this piece were incredibly good food for thought. I’ve since discovered it’s all part of something called the Lululemon Manifesto, self help stuff and all that but it’s fascinating, you can find a PDF download of it HERE
The second part of little sister’s exercise after thinking about these very thought provoking and confronting questions was asking each of us to complete a One year, Five Year and Ten Year Plan for ourselves. We had to fill out a form that looked a little like below with two major goals per time scale.
All five of us took the exercise very seriously but it was hard, really hard. I think I’ve fallen into my life and therefore, like my previously mentioned travel plans, my life planning, family planning and all other things, I’ve left it to the powers that be, karma and all other things that mean I didn’t have to look at things too seriously.
After we had all shared our innermost desires and goals for where we wanted to be in 10 years from now, we nodded supportively, agreed with everyone’s plans and little sister tucked the goals away in her handbag. I could almost guarantee that 10 years from now, those same 5 women will sit down to dinner together and reflect on our hopes and desires for ourselves, our partners and our kids. What an amazing thing it will be to look back on. I highly recommend doing this at your next dinner party. Can be serious or fun but either way, it gets you thinking!